Erotic energy is a life force which can bring enthusiasm, vitality and creativity to all aspects of our lives.
Many of us engage in some kind of sexual activity on a regular basis - either with self or other(s). We invest a lot of time, attention and energy supporting various other aspects of our lives. We get exercise programmes from… Continue reading
I have been offering this experience for a while, and guys have had quite a time with it. Seeing colours, feeling relaxed as if they have had a massage, feeling as if they have had an orgasm, tingling, electricity….all this and more - when we tune in to our body and move away from primary ways of experiencing ourselves.… Continue reading
An opportunity to learn new ways to expand your own sense of erotic vitality - as well as negotiating consent with others to allow for more safety, freedom and sense of possibility in the ways your interact with others.
An invitation to participate in a communal event to awaken erotic energy, through the dynamism of an Erotic Trance Dance, which is one of the Orgasmic Yoga Practices developed by Body Electric. These skills and experiences can be integrated into many aspects of your erotic process and general health and well-being. Open to gay,… Continue reading
You are so hot!
That was amazing!
You know what to do!
But sometimes, we don’t feel so hot, or amazing, or that we know what we are doing…
As Pamela Stevenson-Connolly remarks, “Despite the commonly held myth that suggests the opposite, making love does not come easily and spontaneously. Rather it is something we have to… Continue reading
It is believed that homo sapiens, the species of human being which we belong to, came into being around 100,000 years ago. The Big Bang was 13.8 billion years ago. WIthout doing the math, there was a long long time when walking, talking, thinking breathing beings did not exist. Life first emerged as single-cell plants, and… Continue reading
There are three phases to consider in relation to the subject of touch.
1) The Intention to Touch
Before we touch someone, we should try and notice that first impulse to touch. What is your intention? to give or receive pleasure or perhaps a combination of both. What is your purpose? Are there verbal or non verball queues to support… Continue reading
Are you man enough to lie naked with another and open yourself to the vulnerability of awakening to the sensations, impulses and signals of your body - in the context of your erotic process and the ways you engage in sex.
My work is about providing a safe space to develop awareness, face hidden truths, breath through fears and… Continue reading
Mention the word “sex” and many guys will brag about their
knowledge of tantra, sexual potency and conquests. We are
conditioned to be “in control” and “fix things”. It can be challenging
to be vulnerable, uncertain or inadequate. It’s time to get over
yourself and onto the path of healing & wholeness, fulfilment &… Continue reading
We move from our furtive wank under the sheets, to adult erotic
experiences constellated around our cock, arousal and orgasm.
The rest of the body becomes an apparatus to facilitate these
functions. Once arousal happens, we often seek the shortest route
to acheive the goal of orgasmic release/relief.
Secretive Shame-based Erotic Emergence
Erections and wet-dreams should be part of our birthright and rites
of passage towards manhood. Our actual experience tends to be
constrained by a call for stealth, speed, and secrecy. This is where
we lay the foundations and develop the neural pathways which
shape the way we have sex.… Continue reading
Roman & Greek cultures were significantly more sex-positive and
erotically expressive than the Judeo-Christian culture in which we
have been immersed. Whether you believe in these moral principles
or have found an alternative narrative, they remain a cornerstone of
our identity. It is important for each of us to explore how we may… Continue reading
This work is founded on creating sacred space in which to explore your erotic process. Whatever you may choose to say or do or express will take place in a context which honours every aspect of your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual unfolding.
S hamanic E rotic E xperience
Seeing Beyond Sight
Believing Beyond Dogma
Knowing Beyond the Mind
Drumbeat meets Heartbeat meets Breathwork to Light the Fire of Arousal and the Rhythm of Eros to access the Lifeforce and pulsate the ancient lineage of wisdom lying dormant in your body.
To connect with nature and your natural… Continue reading
Why should straight guys work with a male erotic practitioner?
If you work with a woman, you are likely to step into many of the habitual ways in which you engage erotically. They are hard-wried into your psyche. By working with another guy, you are stepping out of your habitual patterns. You realise that you have a mature view of your… Continue reading
Learning Intention: This is a focal area of curiosity and interest, that we would distil in our initial conversation. This provides us with a framework from which to engage in our erotic practise - and hopefully a marker for specific improvements or developments in relation to your erotic vitality.
This work leads us towards the resilient edge of resistance which generally includes a measure of discomfort. I advocate developing a willingness to sit in the fire and be uncomfortable from time to time, over the pursuit of happiness….or are they the same thing.
This is a long video - I think there may be shorter versions - But this is a breakthrough in expanding our ways of negotiating touch - which means negotiating pleasure, satisfaction and fulfilment. Sometimes you may need coaching, especially if in an established relationship with its patterns of behaviour - but it can revolutionise your… Continue reading
Blogs | The Work
One of my teachers proposes that there are three aspects to our experiencing sex or erotic process.
1. Relating - e.g. looking lovingly in their eyes a la Kama Sutra
2. Trance - e.g. I just love that feeling when I got lost in my own process while we are having sex
3. Role - the hardest to get a handle on as it may be about more… Continue reading
Intimacy: In my work, I enter into intimate relationship with my clients. We are dealing with touch, connection, sensation. However, it is a therapeutic alliance. My role is to support your development. It is a delicate balance. We all come to these situations, with a range of thoughts and expectations. I work is to develop awareness… Continue reading
In the Talmud, R. Chanina remarked, “I have learned much from my teachers, more from my colleagues, and the most from my students” (Ta’anis 7a).
Today a client realised that he had used the notion of “passion” to disguise his tendency to be quick. He learnt how much pleasure there is in slowing things down….and breathing. It made me… Continue reading
Here’s a quote from Pavini Moray - check out their (note: gender neutral pronoun) website - especially free e-book, “Your Toolkit for Erotic Liberation”
“I’m sitting down today, and planning how I want 2015 to be for me erotically, and I remembered that I have a present for you! It is a tool to help you plan your erotic year.
Something… Continue reading
Brain plasticity is a big buzz-word at the moment - Worth looking at TED talk by Jill Bolte Taylor, author of My Stroke of Insight. However, my keylearning is ” what fires together, wires together” - so if yr early erotic experience of pleasure, was also associated with some fear, these somewhat opposing experiences can become wired, so… Continue reading
I’ve been thinking about the extraordinary subtlety of experience that has us attracted to some folk, ambivalent about others, and somewhat irritated by some. And then over time the liked, can become tedious - those we had aversion to become more engaging and likeable - and some who were just around, step into our more intimate circle.… Continue reading
When couples suggest that it is normal for sex to fall back when your a couple, I think that they entered their intimacy with a culturally-ordained narrow vision of what sex is and it is that which loses its mojo. There is so much more to the curiosity and presence of erotic expression that is full-bodied, breath-oriented, and less… Continue reading
Here’s the challenge:
Most of us did not get much in the way of erotic mentoring…that gets even more complex when u have to navigate whatever it means to be gay. I found myself wondering what I would have liked someone to advise me - and maybe even now - consider the moral and ethical principles that I would like to have in my… Continue reading
What does it mean to “turn up erotically”? For many of us, this means going through the same old posturing we shaped in our early erotic awakening, and hoping that it leads to a happy ending for all involved - but mainly ourselves. But what would it mean to be truly present - present to your own moment-by-moment changing landscape of… Continue reading
Mindfulness is the buzz word for noticing what is happening in the body….breath….in…out - sensation here and there - tingling - itching - tension - heat - cool….and what is the impact of arousal on these matters?.....a glorious research project.
Sexual orientation or Sexual orienteering? What is fixed and what is mutable? I have found myself in workshop situations, in which I was erotically engaged with a woman, without feeling any threat to my general same-sex attraction and desires. I have seen straight men working with arousal with other straight men, without any… Continue reading
Here’s a tip: If you are generally the more dominant or submissive partner in sex and/or life - then…it could be good value to explore changing roles in some sexplay role play. This can want some coaching - but it can certainly spice up your sexplay as well as being liberating - physically, emotionally and spiritually.… Continue reading
KAOS - Kock-Arousal-Orgasm-Sex. There is a cultural conditioning borne of a sex- negative attitude to our erotic process This has led to this minimalist goal-oriented approach to sexual expression. But there are strategies to step out of this chaotic rhythm. Breathwork, Touch, Awareness, Movement and Sound together with your willingness… Continue reading
Men are hard-wired by our culture to want to BE IN CONTROL and FIX THINGS!. No wonder it is so hard to hang out with vulnerability ( being out of control) and Process ( the space between temporary resolution….) Vulnerability and Process are the landscape in which to unfold our sense of self, our relationship with others, and our… Continue reading
“Give a man a fish and he lives for a day - Teach him to fish and he lives forever.” Much erotic work gives folk a heightened erotic experience, which has its value in stepping outside the box, and being inspired by what is possible. My work helps those who want to help themselves. Develop practises which you can integrate into your own… Continue reading
Brain Plasticity tells us that “what fires together, wires together” - If our early erotic/sexual experiences may have included both excitation and arousal - and perhaps fear and/or shame - then these two elements can become foundational in our approach to sex. However, these neural pathways can be altered, adjusted and changed. There… Continue reading
Blogs | The Work
When people think of Tantra, they often think of having sex with some hot dudes who takes them on an erotic journey that is “amazing”. While Tantra can invite us into amazing experience, my work focuses on teaching you the mechanisms by which you can navigate your own process in the direction of amazing. The… Continue reading
Blogs | Exercises
Self-pleasure in the shower. Many of us trained ourselves to approach our self-pleasuring with a minimum of movement, a minimum of sound, a minimum of sensation and a single goal in mind. We can never practise the nurturing stimulating act of touch too much. It will help our own well-being and the well-being of anyone else we happen to… Continue reading
A message for straight guys: When you seek to develop your erotic landscape within the context of your preferred and habitual related-style, there are strong narratives, roles and influence, which you are not be aware of. You may be aware of some - but never all. For many this includes a tendency to be more the “pleasure giver” than the… Continue reading
The starting point of my work is that you come with a desire to learn something about your erotic process. And that means more than simply wanting pleasure sensations, that you have ever wanted. It means wanting to understand your own body and how it experiences pleasure and what is really wants, in order to feel deep satisfying,… Continue reading
Jewish sage Maimonides said ” One shall not eat everything that the palate desires, like a dog or an ass.” This is also true for our sexual appetite. While there are many aspects to our erotic process, it is useful to develop a sense of deep erotic satisfaction and fulfilment within - so that our engagement with others is based on a… Continue reading
Next time you are in the shower - notice that you have a routine/ritual for how the soap glides across your body - and it tends to be quite functional. This time, take a breath, and treat it as a time for self-sexploration. How nice is it to feel your thigh, your chest, nipples…the contour of your skin? Each of us has… Continue reading
Sexy over SIxty: Many folk who are fortunate to reach 60 - also realise that their erotic processes have significantly diminished. While Freud suggested this was inevitable, Masters & Johnson proposed au contraire - that it is possible and desireable to maintain a healthy sex life through into old age. However, it remains true that the… Continue reading
A 90 minute session begins with some relaxation techniques and other practises to help you become more in touch with your body and its sensations. We then explore aspects of your erotic life that you want to know more about - perhaps you are interested, curious of disturbed by something? Once we have established a learning intention, we… Continue reading
We know what we know - and We know what we don’t know - but We don’t know, what we don’t know.
One of the things many men don’t understand is that menfolk have been programmed and culturally oriented towards two strong tendencies - Being in Control and Fixing Things. If men are not in control, then we are often working towards that… Continue reading
Touch, Breathwork and Awareness enhance your full body massage, so that you can feel relaxed vitality, coupled with a deep sense of satisfaction and fulfilment. This practise encourages you to remain involved in the massage experience, with breathwork techniques and awareness practises that can really make a difference - both on the… Continue reading